I have been lying to both my husband and my lover and I feel awful about myself. My husband thinks the affair is dead and buried and my lover believes I'm just waiting for my husband to move out.

That's been our secret. It's not complicated ... They need space and breaks to have the energy to do the work. Lying to myself. I used to worry that the briefs weren't going to come.

Living alone when you’re my age requires lying ... There has been a new development in my living alone that helps with this and feels comforting, though — talking out loud to myself.